Asking a Tarot question Part 2: Work and business

In Part 1 of this series, I looked at the importance of asking the right question, specifically in the context of relationship tarot readings. I would like to take this further and look at tarot readings for work, career and business.

Before I start though, allow me to share a little personal story.

Tarot of Delphi
Tarot of Delphi

My story starts around 2008, or thereabouts. At the time I felt like I was suffocating in a job I did not enjoy, and was looking at my options outside of my chosen field. There were not many (well, not when you want to retain all the trappings of a comfortable middle class lifestyle, at least). As it happened, a position opened up with a different organisation, which, while more or less the same, was also a senior position with a more environmental focus in a regulatory field (or so I thought!).

At the time I had already ventured into the world of tarot, however my experience and knowledge was limited. Since lack of knowledge and experience do not deter the enthusiastic Sagittarius, off I went and got out my trusty Rider Waite Smith.

I posed the question: Will I get the job?

I received an answer: Yes.

So off I went on my merry way, updated my resume, typed a cover letter, and applied. I was offered an interview, and shortly after was notified, much to my excitement, that I got the position.

So far, so good.

On my first day on the role, I was informed that the person who had been filling in my position until my appointment had gone on leave for a few weeks. There was no formal induction, and the most limited computer training done by other officers who, I felt, were not very friendly towards me, and didn’t offer much beyond basic answers to my questions. I did wonder whether they felt they should have been promoted for the role I was now in. Perhaps that is my perception only, but overall the energy in the office was highly toxic. I don’t know whether other people noticed it or not, but to me, it was very obvious and I could not shake it off. (The guy sitting across from me committed suicide a while later, and while there are lots of factors that contribute to a person taking their own life, it certainly doesn’t help when you spend 8 to 10 hours a day in such a negative atmosphere).

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Worst nightmare: feeling trapped with no way out. Sharman-Caselli Tarot

I realised early on that the “senior” title meant having a very large workload with no prior experience or training, as well as possessing the ability to overlook discrepancies and approve applications that certainly were not meeting stipulated requirements. But worst of all, was the feeling of being left on my own to deal with it all, with no adequate support from other staff, and the realisation that it was not going to get any better.

To make matters even worse, I was tied to a mortgage on a unit I had bought, so it wasn’t like I could just walk out. But I knew I could not stay. So I listed my unit as soon as I could, and miraculously sold it within 2 weeks. At a loss, but no matter. Freedom to Sagittarians is more important than the air we breathe, and losing a 5 figure deposit was a small price to pay, as far as I was concerned.

So, about 3 weeks from the start of my new role, I walked in and handed in my resignation. And I have never looked back.

Now, going back to my original question for the cards: Will I get the job? Clearly, this is not the right question to ask! Yet I come across it so often, and don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I advise clients not to ask it. However, I do suggest first asking other questions that may help them gain a better understanding of their job or work, such as:

  • Is this the right job for me?
  • What opportunities will this role bring?
  • What challenges will this position bring?
  • What do I need to do to make this job work for me?
  • What will my relationship with my boss be like?
  • How will I get along with my co-workers?
  • What will be the outcome of me taking this job?
  • What do I have to offer this role (or offer the organisation)?
  • Will I be able to advance in this role?
  • Are there opportunities for promotion (or leadership)?
  • How stressful will this position be?
  • What do I need to know about applying for this job?
  • Am I capable of doing this job?
  • Is this position in line with my own values and ethics?
  • What compromise(s) will I need to make if I work in this role?

As you can see, there are more important question to ask first, than simply Will I get the job?

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Bohemian Gothic Tarot

The same principles apply if you intend to start a new business or venture. Asking Will I be successful is not as helpful as asking, What do I need to do in order to make this business a success?

After all, it is all up to you.

I hope this gives readers some more insight into what to look for when getting a tarot reading related to career and vocation. It might just save you a lot of heartache and stress at the end of the day – as it would have no doubt helped me avoid a costly exercise, but such is life sometimes.

Until next time,
Monica

 

Asking a Tarot question, Part 1: Relationships

This blog post has been sitting with me for a while, slowly brewing in the background. This is the first of 3 posts in this series, looking at what and how to ask a Tarot question, specifically those exploring the minefield territory that is a relationship. (Part 2 will look at the more pragmatic side of life such as work and business, and in Part 3 I’ll focus on the divinatory, or fortune-telling aspect – more to come later).

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The High Priestess from the Bohemian Gothic Tarot

So here’s a hypothetical scenario:

You meet someone you rather fancy. Perhaps you really, really like them, though you are not quite sure how to proceed, or whether you should in the first instance. Perhaps past experiences have scarred you a little, and doubt and hesitation hold you back. Should you, shouldn’t you…. Or maybe, you are already in a relationship, but not really sure where it is heading.

At some point you decide to see a Tarot reader, and after explaining the scenario, you ask the question: Will this relationship work out? Sometimes, this gets rephrased as, Is he/she the one?

And this is where I have to pause and do a delicate dance around this question. It is not that I avoid the question – and I’ll look into the fortune telling aspect of readings in Part 3 of the series. I understand all too well that sometimes, there is a fated element to a relationship (or work, business, and life in general), and there is no avoiding this.

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2 of Cups – Rider Waite Smith Tarot

However, my experience, as both a reader and a client, is that in most cases, these are not the right questions to ask. For starters, one is placing a tremendous amount of power in the hands of the Tarot reader – and equally, one is disempowering themselves by doing so. The repercussions of this are vast, but essentially can be summed up in one word: responsibility, or lack of should I say.

 

Taking responsibility for your own actions, rather than laying the blame somewhere else (our parents, society, or the Tarot reader), if one of the hallmarks of maturity and empowerment. So, you may wonder, what should one ask instead?

This largely depends on each person and what stage the relationship is at, and also on the ethics of the reader, however here are some suggestions:

  • What does he/she need from me?
  • What does he/she want from me?
  • If you are in an existing relationship, you can go a step further and ask, What does he/she need (or want) from me that I am not offering (or not able to offer)?
  • What do I need from a relationship?
  • What does he/she think of me?
  • What are his/her feelings for me?
  • How do we emotionally relate? Or mentally?
  • How sexually compatible are we?
  • What does he/she hope for in this relationship?
  • What are his/her fears in this relationship?
  • What is our relationship based on?
  • How do we communicate?
  • What are my strengths (weaknesses) in this relationship?
  • How does he/she deal with conflict?
  • What do we need to do in order to overcome this issue/obstacle?
  • What am I not able to see clearly about our relationship?
  • What are his/her intentions for our relationship?
  • What do I need to do in order to make this relationship work?
Two of Cups Haindl Tarot
2 of Cups – Haindl Tarot

The last one in particular is relevant to my earlier point about taking responsibility – for it’s really up to two people whether their relationship will work out or not, rather than the reader. Again, there are always exceptions to the rule, and I certainly do not mean to diminish or ignore the role that certain karmic energies play in our lives. This post, however, is more about the destiny we create when we actively and consciously work on our own issues, rather than lay the blame at the feet of some divine intervention or the Tarot reader.

If you are exploring the more psychological aspects and complexities in a relationship, here’s a good one: What was his relationship like with his mother? (or her relationship with her father?). Or, what am I projecting onto my partner? etc.

Finally, for those who are dealing with infidelity, a good question might be, what can my wife/husband be (or express) with the other person that they are not able to be with me (rather than, what do they see in the other person)

As you can see, the options are endless. In writing the above, I must articulate that I am not a counsellor or psychologist. I am a Tarot reader who shuffles the cards to help clients to the best of my ability, and that ability has largely been coloured by both life experience and experience as a reader.

In Part 2 I’ll be looking at questions pertaining to work, business, career, and the like.

Until next time,
Monica